二、給真愛追尋者的信

We must begin with your personal definition of TRUE LOVE. Without that, your search is pointless as the roundabout with no feasible exit for your journey. Don’t race to the dictionary, as the definition lies within your own life philosophy and experience.

我們必須從你們個人對真愛的定義開始。沒了它，你的尋求便毫無意義，如同環(huán)形繞道的旅途沒有出口可走。不要去查字典，因為這定義就在你的人生哲學(xué)和經(jīng)歷之中。

Our adult happiness lies rooted in the soil of our childhood. Instinctively, we bonded to our mothers for survival and eventually understood the protective potential of our fathers. All can agree that our basis of love stems from these early interactions. Rather than bandy about the countless theories concerning “mommy” and “daddy” issues, let’s begin with the idea that you have come to terms with your past and are eager to move forward into your own loving relationship.

我們作為成人的幸福，植根于孩提時的土壤。為求生存，我們本能地和媽媽親近，而后終于懂得了父親對我們的保護(hù)。大家都知道，我們的愛，來源于這些早期的互動。與其散播關(guān)于“媽咪”和“爸比”問題的無數(shù)理論，不如讓我們以這樣的想法開始：你已經(jīng)能夠和自己的過去共處，并且渴望前進(jìn)步入你自己愛的關(guān)系。

The best predictor of one’s future behavior is to look at past behavior. By looking at your actions, can you say that you’ve fallen in love with the most important person…yourself? Without arrogance and hubris, do you LOVE the person you have become?

預(yù)測一個人未來行為的最好方法，就是去看其過去的行為?；仡櫮愕男袆?，你可以說自己已經(jīng)愛上了最重要的人…你自己么？拋去自大狂妄，你愛現(xiàn)在的自己么？